How to Honor a Healer
Dr. Lionel Mandy
Dr. Lionel Mandy
Be they a Priest, Priestesss, Monk, Shaman, Healer, Sangoma, Midwife, Child, Auntie, or Stranger-anyone who heals you.
One of the consequences of the current consumer world is that most acts have a fee associated with them. Doctors, therapists, counselors, social workers are all included in this consumer world. All have fees attached to their services. Some healers also charge fees; many do not. How should you respond to these healers when you go to them for help whether they charge or do not?
Whether the healer charges a fee or not, they deserve to be thanked for assisting you. Most healers see their clients in person: rarely do they do their healing over a phone, on the internet, or by some other means. They offer their time, expertise, and caring to their clients. They do so for a far lower price (or for no fee at all) than a doctor or other counseling professional. Be sure to thank them for helping you to learn what problem(s) you have, and how to heal it/them. If they serve you via phone, internet, or using a photograph of you- please thank them too.
When you make an appointment, tell the healer how many people + issues they will be asked to help with. Each healer has their own style. Many use medicines and tools. Many use their internal spiritual and physical resources to do healing. If you make an appointment with a healer for a specific number of people and/or issues, the healer plans their resources accordingly. This includes their own supply of energy to do their tasks. If you then invite additional people to attend the healer's visit and seek their help, you are not honoring the healer. Rather you are forcing them to work beyond their expectations, and perhaps beyond their capacity. This circumstance may wear them out. Or the healer may regret that they cannot help all who come to them at their visit to you.
Notice that medical doctors and other professionals make appointments with their clients or patients, which avoids this problem. If you would not bring 10 people to your medical doctor and expect her or him to help all of them when you made an appointment only for yourself, then you should offer the same respect to all healers.
If you do add additional people beyond what the healer expects to see, be prepared for the healer to kindly refuse to heal more people than they can handle. Doing so is their right.
If the healer doesn't charge a fee, you should give them a gift in return for the gift they give you. It is a moral necessity. Giving such a gift reflects your integrity- it shows that you value the healer and honors them for the gift of healing that they have bestowed upon you.
Gift the healer for each person and/or situation they help. Don't just gift them only one gift if they heal many people and other issues. This happens so frequently that it has to stated!
The more people and issues that the healer heals, the more you should gift them- whether the healer charges you for it or not. That is the fair and honorable way.
Healers look out for you. But only the healer can look out for themselves. So they must do that. Be patient with them.
Healers are human just like you. Where possible, do not put your distress onto the healer. That makes their job more difficult.
If the healer has to change their plans due to events in their lives, understand, just as you do with a doctor, mechanic, or other provider of help. So forgive them if they cancel or change your appointment.
When a healer heals anyone and/or any thing (a pet, a land, a home, a business, etc.) for you remotely [not in person], you should gift them based on the number of persons/ things they healed.
Gift or pay the healer the same as you would for each item they heal, whether they do so in person or via some remote means. Be fair. In my practice, 80 percent of those I help do not gift me anything.
Not all persons with healing power are honorable. Some with such power will do evil or good-whichever one gives them the most of what they want. So be on your guard lest you get misused. Honorable healers are usually easy to recognize. They are kind. Nothing about them makes. You feel uncomfortable. But since you may be the one in need of help, you may miss the bad qualities of this person. If you can, meet the healer with someone who is not in need of. Help, and whom you can trust. Ask that person for their impression of the healer.
Finally, Thank You for Being Generous to Your Healers!